It is time to flip the switch to "ON" and get started. These are the top tips for setting yourself up for success. Just remember, without a strong scaffolding, your structure is weak.
TIP #1 - Schedule a life-saver. Many people tell me that it is easier to get up earlier than to carve time out of their already existing schedules. Set an alarm for your appointment with yourself and your creative process. The time you choose should be when you are the most active mentally. Schedule your date and pretend it is your dialysis – your hookup to a life-saving process.
TIP #2 - Consider your writing time sacred but also realize that non-writing time is creative time. Carry a notebook like Joan Didion. When you live with creative awareness, you are seeing with a lens that allows you to take anything you find curious. Comb for details while you are awake, filing away insights and ideas from the environment of your life. The haircut of one of the moms at the playground,...
Have you ever met someone who seems addicted to their own pain?
Trauma may be what they know, or feel most comfortable with. Familiarity can be a false love – which is how we can become accustomed to keeping and tending our own little pain garden. Just like weeds, the stories in our pain garden are familiar, insidious, and help hold together the plot (as in story or the land we sow).
It is why people joke around that “they married their mother” or why adult children of alcoholics sometimes unconsciously choose a partner with similar unpredictable behaviors in their adult life – it may be bad, but it is what feels comfortable.
Imagine your pain as a 3 x 5 garden – what is in there? The red poppies of thwarted desire, the desiccated vines of hunger? The showy roses of damaged pride? In mine, I have the controlling trellises of perfectionism.
Writing Prompt: After imagining your pain garden, see what could grow there instead that is more nourishing....